This Is Not Okay

In the time since Brock Turner sexually assaulted a woman behind a dumpster in 2015, Stanford University has taken pains to recast the scene of the literal crime: Gone is the infamous dumpster, now replaced with some nice paving stones, two benches and a fountain. Emily Doe, as the victim is known, was originally meant to supply a quotation for a memorial plaque, completing its transformation.

Instead, Doe will no longer be involved with the plaque at all, since Stanford reportedly rejected two of her suggested quotations, both pulled from her famously heart-rending victim’s statement, campus outlet The Fountain Hopper first reported

The article doesn’t state which quotes the victim suggested, but it does tell us what quote Stanford decided to go with: “I’m okay, everything’s okay.”

Are they serious? Here is the paragraph Stanford pulled that quote from:

My sister picked me up, face wet from tears and contorted in anguish. Instinctively and immediately, I wanted to take away her pain. I smiled at her, I told her to look at me, I’m right here, I’m okay, everything’s okay, I’m right here. My hair is washed and clean, they gave me the strangest shampoo, calm down, and look at me. Look at these funny new sweatpants and sweatshirt, I look like a P.E. teacher, let’s go home, let’s eat something. She did not know that beneath my sweatsuit, I had scratches and bandages on my skin, my vagina was sore and had become a strange, dark color from all the prodding, my underwear was missing, and I felt too empty to continue to speak. That I was also afraid, that I was also devastated. That day we drove home and for hours in silence my younger sister held me.

Tone-deaf is too kind of a description. I don’t blame her for walking away from this.

Here’s my idea: Put the dumpster back and set it on fire.

24 comments on “This Is Not Okay

  1. cassandram

    Stanford needs to be ashamed of themselves for co-opting any of this. Hoping the students know what to do.

    • What were they thinking by suggesting that quote? Did they not read her letter?

  2. It sounds more like what these institution’s responses are to reports of sexual assault. Basically a perfect example of them denying the problem and trying to rush past it. The “memorial” should be Turner in a cage with a pile of small rocks near by.

  3. It is a disgrace, they don’t want to tarnish their University. But, @Pandora “Here’s my idea: Put the dumpster back and set it on fire.” That is called arson, that is a crime! The EXTREME LEFT, promoting violence, THAT is what is wrong with your suggestion!

  4. Anono, unclutch your pearls, snowflake. Dumpster fire is a well known phrase.
    “Oh my goodness! She is advocating ARSON!!!” please. Also, IM the one who suggested outright violence against the rapist. Specifically making him am art installation you throw rocks at. You conservatives and your soft-on-rape stance… It is really disgusting.

  5. “Stanford needs to be ashamed of themselves for co-opting any of this. Hoping the students know what to do.”

    Not likely. It’s the Duke of the West.

    • “I can’t even take refuge in France, where Nutella riots have spread across the country and Paris is now home to a troop of escaped baboons running loose in the city.

      Still sounds better than here, though.”

      Now, we know why you have not left!

      AND, how come DD doesn’t let you write here?

      • Anono, you will stay on topic, or I’ll pull your comments – something, in all my years of blogging, I’ve never done. This blog isn’t a bathroom wall. You do not get to come here and personally attack contributors and commenters while not making one pertinent point about what’s written. You also don’t get to blame people for your not getting a reference to an extremely common meme.

        The post is about how Stanford tried to sanitize what Brock Turner did to Emily Doe behind (wait for it) a dumpster. Her letter was one of the most powerfully written statements I have ever read on this issue. For Stanford to suggest the phrase “I’m okay, everything’s okay.” is beyond tone deaf – especially when you read that quote in context. The truth is that Emily Doe will never be “okay” with what happened to her. That’s the point of this post, and that’s what’s under discussion. Stay on topic.

        • Pandora, “It is a disgrace, they don’t want to tarnish their University.” That is what I said! GOT YOUR POINT!

      • What do you think you’ll accomplish if I leave the country? I’ll still get to vote, moron.

        I don’t want to write here. I disagree strongly with DD on some vital issues. I only come here to insult you, because I find your very existence a crime against human intelligence.

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